After reading this eloquent article and others by the same author, I was shocked to see how many people immediately discount Matt Walsh’s opinion on birth control and abortion simply because he is a man. (Never mind that this court case: [Hobby Lobby] is very relevant to Matt, being that he is self- employed)
I find it comical that Pro Abortionists cry wolf every time a man tries to assert a pro-life position, or a position that supports religious freedoms for companies who don’t want to subsidize substances that violate their religious beliefs. Ignoramuses shout, “You are a MAN! You can’t have children! Stay out of my vagina!”
How can we push men out of the abortion argument and then simultaneously have a conniption when a man doesn’t want to take responsibility for a child he fathered? Where is the logic here? It’s YOUR vagina! It’s YOUR body! Birth control is YOUR responsibility! YOU take care of the kid and don’t come complaining about child support either.
Here is a truth that some might not want to admit. Once you choose to join your body to another through sexual intercourse you are making your body available to offer itself up for another. Sex makes babies. For those of you whose intelligence is now insulted, I am so sorry. I can’t believe I had to say that either. I can’t believe I have to say that when you participate in sexual intercourse you have now placed yourself in a vulnerable position- but these are the same people who say that a baby is only a baby if it is wanted, so we really can’t expect much in terms of reasoning.
In doing so, you give your body to someone else. If a pregnancy results from that union, then that baby belongs to both of you, meaning that man should have a say in what happens to it. In the same way, he has a RESPONSIBILITY to take care of your child. Because it’s his. Even when it is inside your body, it’s also his baby. Because he fathered it. Therefore decisions about your body, concerning this baby, are also his to make. Because its his baby. Okay. Glad we had that talk.
Therefore, the pro abortion argument that men cannot have a say in what happens to their children (meaning whether or not it should live or die) is completely useless unless we want to relinquish men from their responsibility over the children they have fathered. There is no other option. It is like saying that young people today cannot have an opinion on the Holocaust because they have never nor will never experience it. It is absurd. When something is wrong, it’s wrong. And anyone who knows its wrong and wants to speak against it is entitled to do so, including those who are concerned about unborn children, women’s health, religious freedom, or massive genocide, even if they themselves have no direct correlation to the subject (hint: because men cannot live without ever coming into contact with a woman, every guy has a direct correlation to this subject).
As a member of humanity, we are all interconnected. It is amazing to me that many who advocate for “tolerance”; “unity” and “equal rights” are the same people who so vigorously work to divide men from women and children from their parents. The contradiction among this school of thought is obvious, yet so many buy into this illogical way of thinking. It is shocking.
Men, please continue to advocate for the health and safety of women. Please continue to fight for our children. And please, continue to be presences in the lives of those whom you have co-created, who are the most vulnerable. We need you.
Signed,
A Woman.
P.S. I have no intention with this blog of removing or degrading a woman’s autonomy. I am simply saying that when the decision is made to engage in the act of procreation, it should be made with the understanding that a possible result may be a child, who will temporarily have access to our bodies and our resources.
Err. The fetus is gestating in the mother. No further inputs from the father are biologically required, thus during this phase the mother is solely responsible for her pregnancy, including the right to end her pregnancy if she sees fit.
Once born, then men have responsibility to support and raise their child.
Contrary to your opinion, women’s autonomy and rights are not removed once they have sex. Women do not lose their autonomy once pregnant despite what forced birth advocates, such as yourself say.
“No further inputs from the father are biologically required, thus during this phase the mother is solely responsible for her pregnancy, including the right to end her pregnancy if she sees fit. Once born, then men have responsibility to support and raise their child.”
There is difficulty getting past the logical inconsistencies here. If “responsibility” for a child depends upon whether or not it is biologically required, then there is no responsibility for the Father postpartum. The mother can just as easily take care of the child’s needs, as could a grandparent, an adoptive parent, or a perfect stranger. Why should the father stick around?
You are right, women do not lose their autonomy once they have sex. Because by engaging in the act of sex they are consenting to the consequences that lie herein. Which includes the possibility of offering their body for another human being through pregnancy. Much like when a person commits a crime, their autonomy is temporarily put on hold while they live in jail for a certain period of time as consequence for their actions. Of course, pregnancy is nothing like jail, and the dignity of a human life should not be compared to a jail sentence, but that is only one example of where we are “forced” to do something we don’t want to do, because of a decision we have chosen to make.
Thanks for writing!